“What man is he that feareth Yahweh?
him shall he teach in the way that he shall choose.”
I mentioned in the last post that I would speak more about training children and the importance of us training them in the way that Yahweh has chosen for them. Precious Sisters, we have such an important role in our children’s lives. When Yahweh blesses us with little ones, we become partners with Him in their raising up and training. Just like we are partners with our husbands, we (our husbands and ourselves) are partners with Yahweh in the raising up and preparing of our children! They are His children…we are just partnering up with Him to carry out His will in their lives. But, so often I think we go about trying to carry out our own will in their lives, instead of His will.
Sisters, when Yahweh blesses us with children, they are eternal souls…souls to be trained to further His kingdom! We.can.not.accomplish.this.without.His.help! Nor can we do this without His leadership and guidance. He told us that He will teach us in the way that HE shall choose…but are we willing to follow Him and trust that He knows what He is doing?
Moms, this means a great deal of work and effort for you. Both of you, but especially you, because you play such a huge part in this, being with them day in and day out! You impact each detail of your child’s life. Each and every single detail! Are you accomplishing this with His help? Or are you trying to do this by your own strength? Are you seeking Him daily on their behalf?
I’ve shared so much over the years about my own mother’s prayers. She has been such an example of this! In a huge part, it was her unceasingly and unwavering prayers, that eventually made me surrender my life to Him! As I mentioned in an earlier post, the way she has raised me, even with just helping me live up to my name, in a huge part, has made me into the person that I am.
But what Yahweh has had me doing, has been really stretching, too. Yahweh has prepared me and has had me serving a lot differently than He has asked my other sisters to serve in. But both her and my precious father have sought to seek His will for each one of us, and even though that often means being flexible and molding each one of us a little bit differently, they have done and are doing a fantastic job (in my humble opinion! :o).
It has been a learning curve for all of us as we seek Yahweh’s will, but it has taught me so much about the importance of a parent’s role in seeking His will on the behalf of their child. Each of us (children and adults) play an important role. We were created differently, for different purposes.
It has really taught me how much each and every member of Yahweh’s family, is just that, a different member. He created us in His image, but He created us special, with special talents and special gifts…to be used for His glory and honor…and to further His Kingdom.
Sisters, do you grasp what this means? Your child is a gift…to bring Yahweh glory and honor…to further HIS kingdom! Your.child.sister! Your precious, little, one that He entrusted to your care!
But as I shared in the last post, this means that each one of your children, will be different. They will be called to different things. They will have different gifts, different abilities, and different talents. Will you allow Yahweh to use that child, how He longs to? Will you support Him in what He calls them to do and be? Will you partner up with Him, seeking His will and desire, and then carrying that out in their life? Will you help Him prepare them for the life He has ahead of them?
Sisters, I know it is hard. You will have the peacemakers, the leaders, the go-getters, the child with a voice…the list is endless. You will have some that are just naturally “easy going”, and then you will have those of us who are the “harder ones”. Will you help Yahweh train those weaknesses in your children, into strengths? There’s a reason that child has the make up that they do. Yahweh knew and knows what they will need. Yes, it means you making sure that it goes in right way. It can be trained, but it will take work. But He gave those traits to your child, because they will need them. But instead of being discouraged with those with stronger wills, versus those with easy going ones, embrace them and ask Him how to train them in the right way, so that they will be trained in the way that they should go.
Moms, help your children embrace Yahweh’s design for their lives. Help them carry out His will, His plan, and His purposes. I remember crying out one day (okay, a lot of days!) that I wish I could live a “normal life”. My life hasn’t been like my sisters lives in so many ways. Yahweh has prepared me for something different, because I’m a different member, and I needed to accept that, and not only accept it, but embrace it.
I remember my sister looking at me and telling me not to wish that Yahweh would give me a “normal” life. Yahweh created us to be different…for a special reason. I should strive to be all He has created me to be, not wish to be “normal”. He didn’t call us to be “normal” or even “average”.
And just because my life has taken a different turn from theirs, didn’t mean it was wrong, or of lesser value. It just meant that He had a different purpose and a different plan, at least at present, and I needed to embrace that.
I remember a few years ago, after Yahweh called me to walk down yet another road which resulted in losing a little girl that I loved dearly (she passed away from cancer at 4 years old), and my breaking down and crying. I told Mom I wished I didn’t love like I did. I hated how I would pour my life into someone, only to lose them in the end. The pain was too much. I felt like my heart was torn in two. This wasn’t the first person I had lost, nor the first child I have had to say “goodbye” to. And it hurt. It hurt a lot. But I remember her looking me in the eye and telling me “Samantha, don’t you ever stop loving like you do for fear of pain. Love will hurt. It’s part of life. But Yahweh has given you a special gift in that, don’t wish for something different. A lot of people wish they could love so easily, but find it is so much harder for them, than it is for you.” And I knew she was right. I loved serving people. I loved loving people. I knew deep down, although my heart was aching, it wasn’t something I truly wished. And I knew without a shadow of doubt, Yahweh was preparing me for something and this was part of the training that I needed to go through, as painful as it was. And she knew that, too.
For me, Yahweh has called me to a season of singleness for a much longer period than He has asked my sisters to walk out. He has also asked me to serve in different ways, too. To further His Kingdom in different ways. One day He may call me to marriage and to raise little ones for His glory…and I truly look forward to this with all my heart. But sisters, I share this only to show you that each one of your children will be different. He may have some get married and become wonderful wives and mothers when they are younger, but He may also have different work for them to accomplish for a bit longer, too. How will you react to His plan? Will you help them embrace it, or will you fight against it?
He may also bless you with sons. You may have sons who are carpenters, farmers, computer software engineer, truck driver, a mechanic, or even one who is called to minister, or is called to serve on the mission field. And you laugh, but my brothers and father are all one of the above, accept for the later one. Each one will have to be raised a bit differently, and will have different gifts, talents, and abilities, along with strengths and weaknesses. And that will mean that once again, you will have to be open to His leading and how He needs to prepare each one for His purpose and His plans.
Will you, as the Masters vessel and partners, fight against His will, or will you be there with them supporting them, encouraging them, and helping them become all He needs them to become? Will you help them not only become all He needs them to become, but will you also help them embrace His calling on their lives?
Sisters, I want to leave you with this one thought. You are training His children. They are His heritages. They’re not our own. Leave them in His hands and become the partners He has intended for you to be. Don’t try to make your child into who you want them to become, but who He needs them to become. This is when His will, needs to become our own will. And this will take prayer and a lot of it. Go down upon your knees and ask Him for His help. He is there to help you. He won’t leave you. He will give you the grace and the strength you need, for each and every step of the way. But remember this…He gives us the grace and strength for this step, for this moment. He doesn’t give us tomorrow’s grace and strength, today. He gives us what we need, in the moment that we need it. So don’t borrow on tomorrow’s worries. Cast your care upon Him, and He will carry you.
All my love and prayers.