Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
Do you we know what a virtuous young lady looks like? Are we striving to become her? Do we cherish her worth? Or have we put our worth into someone different?
 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
Can our husbands safely trust in us, even now? Girls, life doesn’t start when we marry. Can he trust us now? Are we bringing him spoil with how we are living our lives, or are we living in a pleasing manner…one that he would have no need to worry about us, always knowing that he can count on us? How are we living?
 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Do we do our families, our friends, our spouse good and not evil all their days? Or just some of them? Remember, to do them good all the days of our life, it means before and after meeting them. How are we acting now? If they could see us, what would they think?
 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
Do we work willingly with our hands, or do we grumble about having to use them and work? What is our attitude about working, my girls?
 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
Do we know how to look for good food and do we know how to harvest, buy, and prepare it? A virtuous woman must know how to deal with food! Cooking and preparing food isn’t an option for this girl, it is a must. Do we know the ins and outs about it?
 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
I love this verse! What trait do you see in our role model of a virtuous woman? What is she doing here? Yes, she is cooking, but what else? What is the root trait that is being taught here? Servanthood. Yes, we must learn to serve, not be served! So how are you doing on this trait? Are you learning how to be a servant?
 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
Again, we see her caring for her family. She is a capable and hard working young lady…and she knows how to garden! <gulp!> Yes, we must even learn the ins and outs of gardening, too!
 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
Again we see something here. This young lady isn’t weak, which means that again, she is a hard worker. You don’t become strong from doing nothing. She strengthens herself so that she can do the work that she has been called to do. She prepares herself for her tasks ahead. Do we also prepare ourselves?
 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
Do we know the value of things and only make those “good” purchases? Or do we settle on the “cheapest” articles and don’t do our research to find the best deals? Do we know the worth of things or just “go with the flow”?
On a different note; do we know our worth? Girls, so often we think we are worth nothing, but this is simply NOT the truth! We should know our worth…and this means protecting that worth, too. Do we value ourselves and protect ourselves from harms way and those that would like to cheat and steal from us?
 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
Do we know how to do different things, like sew, knit, crochet etc? These things, although not entirely needed today, are very good to know! These things are such a lost art, but girls, we should learn them! How we could bless others with these traits and gifts!
 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
Out of all these verses, this is probably by far one of my favorites. When I think of a virtuous young lady, I see a woman walking down the street with a basket hanging by her side, full of gifts that she has recently baked, for those in need. Helping the needy…there is nothing quite like it! This young lady isn’t too proud to be around the poor, nor too selfish to help them. She eagerly blesses those around her! And notice that she wasn’t helping the rich, she was around the poor. There is something to be said about someone with such character.
 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
This verse makes me smile. I can see her now…having prepared her families clothing for the winter months. She stands back and takes a sweeping look around the room…everything is set. They won’t go without! She is thrifty! Even the poor (financially) virtuous young lady, can prepare her families clothing for the winter months. Look around you. What do you have? What do you need? How can you make something out of nothing? What about using that extra flannel sheet for some shirts for your little one? What about finding good deals at thrift stores? Yard sales? What about using worn larger shirts and pants, to make smaller garments? What have you done to make sure that your family will be nice and warm for the winter months? Can you look back and smile, knowing that all will be nicely dressed and warm?
 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Yes, here is a talented young lady! She is making, not someone else. Do you know how to sew, quilt etc? Girls, I honestly can’t imagine living my life without knowing these traits! These are invaluable, if you ask me. Yes, this lady knows how to do a lot. She is not slothful about her learning and is constantly furthering her skills. Are we ever trying to better ourselves and our skills? Or are we fine with staying where we are?
 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
Our men/families are known for something, but what? How do we portray them? Girls, are will giving them the space and the time to minister and accomplish great accomplishments? Or are we vying for their attention and their time, ever holding them back? Girls, we are “helpers”. We are here to help them accomplish what God wants them to accomplish. Yes, we are to accomplish things too…I mean…this virtuous young lady is not idle! She is not dumb. She is extremely bright, extremely skilled and learned. But if you read this passage carefully, all of her talents and skills are going towards furthering her family and taking care and helping her husband and family. How are we using our skills and talents? Can the same be said of us, about us?
 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Out oh! Sewing, again! But not sewing, weaving! 🙂 I’ve always wanted to learn how to do this…it’s such a pity that it is such a lost art! But even beside this, we see a young lady that is using her gifts to help her family, once again. She isn’t just doing the bare minimal of things. She is going beyond that. Have we? Or do we just do enough to get by?
 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
Strength and HONOR are her clothing! She is well known for who she is, not because she proclaims it to the world, but because the world sees who she is. This is why she will be able to rejoice in the end. She has nothing to regret and everything in the world to look forward to. What about you? Will you also be known for your honor? Will you be clothed in honor?
 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
But you know what? She isn’t just known for her honor, she is also known for her wisdom and her ever kindness towards others! Yes, this is a young lady worthy of honor! And my girls, she is worthy of us striving to be just like her in every way! This is someone truly worthy of being followed!
 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Again, I love how this woman is portrayed…it’s just so beautiful! She isn’t having someone else look after her household, she is the one doing that. She isn’t lazy, doing nothing, but is just the opposite! She is busy, useful, always tending to those around her and making sure that everything is running smoothly! How have you been doing with this? Girls, we can start now, at home with our parents! Have you been helping your mother look after and care for the ever growing household? Have you been blessing those around you?
 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Is it a wonder why her family rises up and blesses and praises her? And you know what? It isn’t just her family that will rise up and bless and praise someone like this! People can’t help but bless and praise a woman like this! They know her worth and they honor her as the queen, not just in title, but in person, because of who she is!
 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Yes, there are different steps to a virtuous young lady. There are the virtuous, but there are also the VIRTUOUS. Who are you?
 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth Yahweh, she shall be praised.
Girls, I want to do a news flash here. It isn’t your looks (or beauty) that will get you praised! It is your fear for the God of the universe that will! This is what a godly young man is wanting! He wants his wife to fear and serve Yahweh with her whole heart! Outward beauty will fade, inward should only grow all the more brilliant! How are you shining today?
 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Yes, this is so true. Don’t try to get people to praise you or proclaim your own “worth”. By being someone worthy of being praised, you will be praised! And is this not the kind of praise we long for? Let’s become worthy of that kind of praise, dear girls! Let’s let this passage of scripture be our role model! Let’s look up and learn from this precious and Godly young lady! We would do well to learn from her. May Yahweh help each of us learn to truly be a virtuous young lady!