… the second volume of the Virtuous Daughters 31 Day Challenge E-book! Yes, Girls, I haven’t forgotten about you! I am still writing it, it is just taking me much longer than I first anticipated. But believe me, it will be worth the wait! Yahweh has taught me so much through this second volume and I believe it will be an immense blessing in your life, too!
This challenge is part of the “Preparing for Marriage” challenges. Enjoy!
When I first had these topics laid upon my heart to write about them in this book, I had no idea what would transpire before I got to actually writing about them! Yahweh has taught me SO much in regards to this topic! It never ceases to amaze me how amazing our God really is!!! He is SO faithful, girls! So very, very faithful!
One of the first truths that I want to share with you all, which I believe is the mot important of them all is, We CAN trust Yahweh!
You might be thinking “well, I knew that one already!” but do you? Do you really? Girls, I thought I did too, but I realized how little I really knew about trusting Yahweh. Do you really know how to trust Yahweh? Do you know how to trust, and not to doubt His every word? If you say yes to that question, let me bring it a little bit closer to home…have you ever doubted that Yahweh would bring you a Godly man, not seeing anyone in sight, and not even knowing one? Do you then, not seeing it happen, doubt that it will? Do you think that unless you do something, it won’t happen? I will be completely honest with you, I have. I have doubted I don’t even know how many times! In my heart I “knew” Yahweh would bring my love to me, but until recently, I doubted I guess that He would, especially without my help! I didn’t see a way. We knew no one (and still don’t) that believes like me and is around my age. Not a one. So what changed? Why is it that the circumstances are the same, yet now I believe that Yahweh will, and without my help? Why do I no longer doubt that He will?
Yahweh has brought me through many, many things in my lifetime. Many of them were completely out of my control, so I had not other choice, but to trust Him. They were simply out of my control. He has allowed me to watch situations, where we were so sure that it was Yahweh’s will, but then watch things fall apart and wonder “was it really His will? Did we do the wrong thing?”, only to then watch Yahweh’s hand totally at work, making “all things beautiful in His time”.
Then Yahweh brought a truth home to my life, which I have to say, totally changed the way I used to think (and still at times, but have to correct!). And that was this truth….Yahweh is in control! It isn’t that He knows what is going on, but it is out of His control. It isn’t that He sees what our choices will be, so thus knows the end from the beginning. It is that He controls each and every one of us, so thus knows the end from the beginning!
Let’s read what His word has to say about this very subject.
Romans 8:28-30 says, “For we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren. Moreover whom he did predestinate, them he also called: and whom he called, them he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified.”
Ephesians 1:4-11 says “According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love: Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Yahshua the anointed to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will, To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved. In whom we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of his grace; Wherein he hath abounded toward us in all wisdom and prudence; Having made known unto us the mystery of his will, according to his good pleasure which he hath purposed in himself: That in the dispensation of the fulness of times he might gather together in one all things in the anointed, both which are in heaven, and which are on earth; even in him: In whom also we have obtained an inheritance, worketh all things after the counsel of his own will:”
Romans 9:18-21 says, “Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he will he hardeneth. Thou wilt say then unto me, Why doth he yet find fault? For who hath resisted his will? Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why has thou made me thus? Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?”
Exodus 9:12 says “And Yahweh hardened the heart of Pharaoh and he hearkened not unto them as Yahweh had spoken unto Moses.”
Exodus 10:20, 27 “But Yahweh hardened Pharaoh’s heart, so that he would not let the children of Israel go”. “But Yahweh hardened Pharaoh’s heart, and he would not let them go.”
Exodus 11:10 “And Moses and Aaron did all these wonders before Pharaoh: and Yahweh hardened Pharaoh’s heart, so that he would not let the children of Israel go out of his land”.
Deuteronomy 2:30 “But Sihon king of Heshbon would not let us pass by him: for Yahweh thy God hardened his spirit, and made his heart obstinate, that he might deliver him into thy hand, as appeareth this day.”
Girls, do you see a pattern here? People may say that “they choose”, but what does scripture say? Yahweh says that He saves whom he wills. That it is not in our hands to decide. This is a hard one to swallow, but think about it. Yes, Yahweh hardens and softens hearts as He pleases, so that His will, will be done, period. Yahweh decided who would be His and what we would do, before the foundation of the world! This, in itself, is incredible, if not immensely humbling. Knowing that He chose me, humbles me like nothing else possibly could! I KNOW I don’t deserve it, and thus I am so very grateful to know that out of billions of people, Yahweh hand picked me to be His! That is beyond what my mind can fully comprehend.
But as I struggled to grasp this truth, a light began shine upon it all. If I am not in-control of situations, than who is? Let’s go back and reread a passage here. Romans 9:18-21 says, “Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he will he hardeneth. Thou wilt say then unto me, Why doth he yet find fault? For who hath resisted his will? Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why has thou made me thus? Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?”
When I reread this passage, something became very clear to me…Yahweh is in control of my life! I know all you older girls have probably heard it, if not felt it. People often look at our age, then to the fact that we are not married yet, and they start to tell us that “if we are who we are, we will never get married!” “They go on to say that none will marry us.” “We have got to change!” “We missed our chance!” We have all heard it, and if we haven’t, we will, I’m sure!
I began to question Yahweh. “Did I miss my chance?” Girls, it isn’t that none has ever been interested in me, and that is why I have never courted before. There has been a couple of people interested in me, but after praying about it, we decided that it wasn’t Yahweh’s will, thus the reason I have not been in a relationship with another man yet. So naturally, as I draw close to my 29th year, I wonder “did I mess up? Did we just not hear correctly?” Then of course, I started to wonder “Is it that I am just not going out and making myself available enough?” But what was my root problem here? Was it that I just didn’t trust that Yahweh was ultimately in control of my life? I said I believed He was, but in truth, I didn’t truly believe it. I believed that *I* could do something that would mess up Yahweh’s plans that He had “before the foundation of the world”! What was I thinking?! Who am I to think that I could override Yahweh’s plans and designs for my life?! Yahweh did not and does not need my help!
Girls, this is when things really began to change with how I thought about courtship, betrothal, and marriage. I began to realize that it wasn’t that *I* messed Yahweh’s plans up, it wasn’t that I missed my chance or heard wrong, it was simply “not Yahweh’s will yet”. It wasn’t in His plans yet for me to be united to my beloved. That didn’t mean that it wasn’t His plan to provide a spouse for me. It just wasn’t His time yet.
This also meant that it wasn’t because I was “too conservative and needed to change”. It also meant that it wasn’t “me” who had to go out and look for my Love. <grin> It wasn’t anything my parents did or didn’t do. Everything was going exactly according to His plan! Yahweh would bring him in His good and perfect time! I am here, because that was (is) part of His plan, His purpose, and His desire for my life. It also meant that I could, and needed to be, the person that Yahweh has created me to be. I did not have to conform to the worlds way of thinking, dressing and acting. The reason that I have been single for these many years, is simply put, Yahweh’s will for my life. Yahweh has me here, because He is using and preparing me for my Love (both here in this world, and also in the world to come…i.e. My marriage to His Son).
Girls, I can not tell you in enough words the peace that this gave to me! Knowing that Yahweh is the one that controls all things and all people, was such a relief to me! Life wasn’t about me, it was about Him! He allows things into our lives, because He sees and He knows what we need! When He said that “ALL things work together to those that love Him”, He meant it. He isn’t being mean, and He isn’t trying to hurt us. It is because of His great love to us, that He has said “not yet”. He knows what we need to accomplish, He also knows what we need to be prepared for, and thus, because of His great love for us, He is allowing us that time for preparing…as He doesn’t send us unprepared! What a beautiful though!
Another thing to think about is this. When we are married and hard times come, as they will, we now no longer have to wonder “did I marry the wrong man?”, but can instead simply lean on Yahweh through it, knowing that this is all apart of His perfect plan and that He is working in both of our lives, for His glory and honor! He is preparing us for His Son, so that we may stand before our Groom, spotless! And in time, He will make all things beautiful! But, will we trust Him to? Will we trust that the outcome is exactly what we needed? Will we trust Him even through the most horrifying pain
(if he allows us to go through that), knowing that He knows what He is doing, and in the end (whether here on earth or in Heaven), that it will become truly the most beautiful thing possible? Girls, will you allow Yahweh to finish the work that He has begun in you, trusting Him to know what is truly best and how to complete it, regardless as to what that might mean? Can you fully trust Him? Can you trust Him and fret not? Can you truly rest in Him, knowing that all is in perfect control?
Today’s challenge is for you to:
Answer this question in your own heart, “Do I and can I, trust Yahweh with all of my heart?” Girls, Yahweh is doing a great work within you…will you trust Him to complete it? Will you give Him control of the pen, so that He can draw the picture and write the story, that He desires to write with your life? Can you trust Him at His word when He said that “all things would work together for the good to them that love Him”? Girls, will you believe that He controls everything and that He is all sovereign? That His grace is truly sufficient for you? And that He will do what is truly the best thing for you, in light of eternity? Girls, this is my plea for your life, that you would truly give Yahweh your complete trust! When you trust someone explicitly, you will not fear what the future may hold. There will be immense peace and a restfulness as you give Yahweh this kind of trustfulness! But will you do it?