As I look back over the years of my adult years, I have to smile as I think of how Yahweh has used my life. I think about how fulfilled I feel, and the question naturally comes to “Why?” What has made the huge difference between feeling unfulfilled and dissatisfied with life and not being married, and that of being so happy, so fulfilled and so satisfied? I know a lot of girls struggle with being satisfied during their single years, so what has made the difference in my own life? Its not that I don’t struggle with being single at times, for I do. I think everyone does. But how can I look back over 11 years of what the world would consider “adult years” and rejoice over them? Why do I have no regrets over being single for so many years? The answer comes down to one main word…serving.
I honestly think this has played such a crucial role in my single years being ones of great fulfillment and satisfaction, verses ones of feeling unfulfilled and dissatisfaction. Why? What does serving have to do with feeling satisfied and fulfilled with where Yahweh has you? I honestly believe that its because I have not sat around doing nothing. I have kept pretty busy serving Yahweh, by serving others. Whether its been serving younger mothers, taking care of children while parents were away or caring for a sick child, serving the elderly, ministering to mothers during and after their labors/births, caring for my own family, or in so many other areas… I have always been serving Yahweh. I’ve been his hands and his feet. Matthew 25:40 says, “…Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me”.
I think the feelings of discontentment comes because we are are not busy serving Yahweh. I look back over my years (I’m almost 30), and during the times that I have struggled the most were because I was not bust serving Yahweh, and had turned my focus from him, to me. Seriously, whether we are married or not, we are supposed to be about “our father’s business” (Luke 2:49) Romans 12:11 says that we are to be “Not slothful in business” but instead “fervent in spirit; serving Yahweh;” Yet how many of us allow our minds to wander, turn away from the “business” that he has set before us, and become lazy in serving him…and thus become discontent because we are not doing what we wish we could be doing (i.e. married and raising a family), instead of what Yahweh needs us to be doing right now?
I would like to challenge each of you to use your single years for his glory, accomplishing what it is that he has set out before you to do. Each person may be totally different in how Yahweh wants them serving him. We all have different gifts and talents. What I do and how Yahweh has me serving, may not be at all how he wants you serving. But we are ALL supposed to be serving him and using this time, wisely! If you’ve wasted these years sitting around for “prince charming” (who, if he was indeed a prince would not be sitting around doing nothing, but using his time very wisely being a prince in the Kingdom of Yahweh), redeem the time! It is SO true, dear sisters, that we can serve in ways now, that we will never be able to serve in while married! We can have such a focused approach to serving, whereas once married, we just won’t be able to do. Yet, precious sisters, there is SO much work to be done…and SO little time!
I want to leave you with this verse. Realize that there IS a difference between these years Yahweh has blessed you with while single, and the years to come while married (if that is his will for your life). There are things that he wants us doing now, that we simply can’t be doing to the extent that we can now, when we’re married. Find out how you can care for the things of Yahweh now, as a virgin (single), and pour yourself into serving him in those ways. You will soon find out how fulfilling, blessed, and completely satisfying you can be, even while being single!
1 Corinthians 7:34 says “There IS a difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of Yahweh, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.” (emphasis is mine)